Could It Be ADHD, Autism, or Anxiety? Or Not?
As a parent, it’s normal to ask big questions when your little one seems different from their peers.
Maybe they’re struggling with transitions, melting down over small things, or seeming overwhelmed by the world around them -and you’re left wondering:
“Is this just a phase? Or could it be ADHD? Autism? Anxiety?”
If you’ve found yourself googling, or panicking after a tricky daycare pickup, you’re not alone.
This post will help you slow down, reflect, and consider what might really be going on - with curiosity, not worry.
🔍 What’s Typical, and What Might Need a Closer Look?
Children develop at their own pace. Some kids are energetic, sensitive, or slow to warm up - and that’s all within the range of typical development. But sometimes, persistent patterns may point to something more.
Let’s take a look at some common concerns.
💡 Could It Be ADHD?
ADHD isn’t just about being “hyper.” In young children, it might show up as:
Constant movement even when it’s time to sit
Seeming not to listen even when spoken to directly
Difficulty switching tasks or following instructions
Big emotional reactions that feel out of proportion
Many of these behaviours overlap with typical toddler or preschooler traits - but if they’re persistent, intense, and impacting daily life, it might be worth exploring further.
🌱 Could It Be Autism?
Autistic children often experience the world differently - especially in social and sensory ways. Early signs might include:
Difficulty with back and forth play or communication
Deep focus on certain interests or activities
Sensitivity to noise, textures, or lights
Delayed speech or different communication styles
Challenges understanding social cues or emotional expression
Autism exists on a spectrum, and shows up very differently in different children.
🌧 Could It Be Anxiety?
Yes young children can experience anxiety, even if they can’t name it. Signs might include:
Frequent clinginess or separation difficulties
Worries that seem to come out of nowhere
Physical complaints like tummy aches
Avoiding certain activities or people
Perfectionism or fear of getting things wrong
Anxious children are often highly sensitive and aware. They need safety and co-regulation, not pressure to “toughen up.”
🧭 So… What Should You Do?
If you’re asking these questions, you’re already being a reflective, attuned parent. That matters. You don’t need a diagnosis to seek support.
Early support doesn’t necessarily mean rushing into labels. It means giving yourself tools to understand your child’s brain, behaviour, and nervous system right now.
I work with families of young children whether you’re on a waitlist for an assessment, unsure what’s “typical,” or just needing things to feel calmer at home.
🤝 You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Whether it’s ADHD, autism, anxiety or just your child’s unique developmental journey - early connection, co-regulation, and practical support can make a huge difference.
If you’re curious about what’s going on beneath the surface, I offer short-term support that’s grounded in neurodevelopment, attachment, and real life.